ABBY: Wedding planning leads to showdown over sister's beau | Lifestyles

ABBY: Marriage ceremony planning results in showdown over sister’s beau | Existence



DEAR ABBY by Abigail Van Buren


DEAR ABBY: I’m engaged to be married, and I am over-the-moon excited. My grown daughter can be my maid of honor, and I had all my bridesmaids picked out. My sister is the difficulty. Her new boyfriend (she goes via plenty of them) makes my daughter uncomfortable. He has tried repeatedly so as to add her to his social media accounts, a few of which comprise disturbing sexual content material.

I instructed my sister that whereas I need her within the marriage ceremony, my daughter comes first, and he will not be allowed to be round us or to take part. My sister has, predictably, sided with him. She insists I am unreasonable and that he is an awesome man, though she has recognized him for less than three months. Am I fallacious? — BRIDE-TO-BE IN TEXAS

DEAR BRIDE-TO-BE: You aren’t fallacious; you’ve gotten your priorities so as. In case your daughter intuitively feels your sister’s boyfriend of three months makes her uncomfortable, her emotions needs to be revered. Stick with your weapons and, if needed, be ready to interchange your sister within the marriage ceremony social gathering.

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DEAR ABBY: My son and his spouse struggled via the COVID-19 pandemic. He misplaced his job. My spouse and I supported them via this era by paying their mortgage and most of their residing bills. He has not too long ago began , career-oriented job.

Nonetheless, his spouse not too long ago found that he has been secretly spending past their means for years on “toys,” and that unbeknownst to her, he has decimated their financial savings and collected substantial debt. When she confronted him, he mentioned he had a “spending habit.” To high it off, they’ve a pandemic child, our granddaughter. We’re at our wits’ finish. What ought to we do? — NOT MADE OF MONEY

DEAR NOT MADE: What must you do? Cease opening your pockets. The true query is: What’s your SON going to do about this? If he is actually hooked on spending past his means (folks generally have been recognized to aim to deal with melancholy by procuring), he wants extra assist than you can provide. If he desires to regain management of his life, he ought to think about becoming a member of Spenders Nameless ( or Debtors Nameless ( Each are 12-step applications for people who’re in the identical scenario as your son.

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DEAR ABBY: My lifelong good friend is bipolar. She refuses to get counseling however does take medicine. Whereas I attempt to be compassionate and inspiring, she has morphed into a whole drama queen. If she has a headache, she is bound it is mind most cancers. If she has a hangnail, it’ll undoubtedly require amputation. She excels at fixed whining. I can not simply flip my again on her, however generally I’ve had my fill of “poor me.” Am I being a horrible good friend? — HAVE MY LIMITS IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR HAVE: No. Out of your description, your good friend is just not solely bipolar, but additionally could undergo from hypochondria. Since you discover her complaints disturbing and aggravating, you’ve gotten the fitting to ration your publicity to her habits.

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