What I Realized About Love By way of Sologamy (aka Self-Marriage)

From the second I arrived at Rosewood Mayakoba and my welcome boat glided towards my suite, I had a way of calm and a robust suspicion that one thing outstanding was across the nook for me.

This self-marriage program combines the 4 parts that we’re: water, wind, earth, and hearth. In accordance with Emmanuel Arroyo, the regional director of spas and wellness at Rosewood Mayakoba, the act of recognizing oneself via connections with pure parts as a path to success stems from Mayan tradition. Fernanda Montiel, an Indigenous third-generation shaman, guides you thru every step.

Whereas the precise course of might be personalized relying on what you need as a part of your bridal ceremony, usually over the 4 days a person will do issues like align their chakras, take pleasure in some unbelievable therapies, be taught to breathe, and cleanse their thoughts, physique, and spirit as they symbolically burn all of the issues they want to expunge from their life in an igloo-shaped temazcal lodge, the place I’m instructed folks usually sing and cry. This expertise culminates with a graduation-like “bridal ceremony” on the fourth day with the gorgeous spa cenote as the marriage venue.

I used to be excited to fulfill Fernanda, which I did for the primary time throughout a dawn gratitude stroll alongside the seashore. She was slight with waist-length raven locks and a smile that completely put me relaxed. She known as me hermanita (“little sister” in Spanish), and I immediately trusted her.

This got here in helpful as, for one in every of our first workouts collectively, she was about to make me comply with her in pretending to be a collection of animals. I shapeshifted from a butterfly with flapping arms to hunching like a jaguar. Passersby regarded on in bewilderment as I related to the earth whereas working, strolling, and leaping on the seashore. Fernanda knowledgeable me that this was additionally an train in shedding self-judgments. “Should you do not choose your self, no one else can both,” she stated. “And if you happen to choose your self, you’ll choose others, too, as a result of this can be a reflection.”

Sufficiently fatigued from my quasi-jungle journey, we moved over to a quiet nook of the seashore for a gratitude apply. We supplied because of the solar, our strongest supply of vitality; we requested the moon to assist us bear in mind our goals; we expressed gratitude for our breath, which balances and nourishes us; and we gave because of our mother and father who cared for us lengthy earlier than we may look after ourselves. Now, it was my flip to take over from them and present myself unconditional love.

Throughout our gratitude circle, Fernanda emphasised that we’re impartial of our mother and father and family members, and we needn’t supply pleasure or ache from them. We’re to take accountability for our personal happiness, maintain our personal hearts, and select ourselves to be able to be proud of different folks. I started to see that this entire journey of marrying myself was very a lot about prioritizing self-care, forgiving myself, and accepting my mild and darkish sides as a result of I’m “the one” and the one fixed in my life. Relationships could come and go, however I’ll at all times have myself, and what a fabulous prospect that’s.

The beneficiant helpings of meals for thought that Fernanda offered helped put together me for my marriage ceremony ceremony on the fourth and last day.